The Mother-In-Law. Three words with the power to strike fear into any woman, and rightly so. A recent study found that 4 in 10 women had an, ‘uneasy’ relationship with their mother-in-law, with 1 in 10 of them not even on speaking terms. With Mother’s Day just around the corner, we’re asking you: Is it possible to establish a healthy relationship with your mother-in-law, and if not, what is it that makes them so infuriating at times? Here are five reasons you will never get on with your mother-in-law:
She will compare you to his last girlfriend
It’s quite common for mothers to continue a relationship with their sons ex-girlfriends, and they don’t care how awkward it may be for you. However, things are bound to get ugly once she starts comparing the two of you. Whether it’s your style, your bad habits, or the gift you bought your other half for his birthday? The last thing you want to hear as you’re reveling in his appreciation is: “Oh but remember that beautiful shirt [enter ex’s name here] bought you last year! She had excellent fashion sense, you should wear it more often.”
She will constantly compete with you for his attention
In your mother-in-law’s eyes you were put on this earth to take her precious son away from her, and so will always try her utmost to get one up on you. She will insist she knows her son better than you do, and she’ll make sure you know it! The mother-in-law will also get her son to side with her at any opportunity, and for the sake of an easy life he may often agree with her, but don’t take it too personally.
She will tell you how to raise your kids
Of all the women I spoke to, this seemed to be the greatest cause of argument. Criticising your parenting skills seems to be what many mother-in-laws do best. Spouting famous gems such as “In my day you wouldn’t catch me feeding this rubbish to my children.” Or the ever popular, “They wouldn’t behave like this if you didn’t allow them to watch so much television.”
She will always tell you you’re doing it wrong – whatever it is
According to your mother-in-law, everything you do is wrong. She will criticise your every move and more often than not, you will bite your tongue to avoid giving her a mouthful. Whether it’s your hairstyle the way you dress or your cooking, she will always let you know what you can do to improve it, even if you didn’t ask.
She’s to blame for his bad habits
Clothes all over the floor, dirty plates left at the table, wet towels on the bed. Sound familiar? This is probably because your hubby has been so used to having everything done for him by mummy dearest that you can’t help but blame her for his bad habits.
Words: Ellyn Peratikou